05.14.10

Why is one comparatively benign compared to the other?

Posted in Drama Ilamas, Ethics and morality, Feminism, Gender, Sexuality at 8:47 pm by kyrias

Supposedly, people are getting all up in arms about the movie Kick-Ass — because Hit-Girl swears like a sailor, gores her way through upwards of 50 people over the course of the film with all sorts of weaponry, is unrepentant to boot, and worst of all: she’s 11 years old.

I really enjoy how sexism immediately comes into obvious,  irrefutable play despite all supposed to-do about the age:

Deb Sorenson claims that somehow “It’s different to any other superhero film which focuses on good triumphing over evil“, perhaps because it’s “a disturbing step into the perverse, revelling in the corruption of an 11-year-old girl”.

Oh really?

Why exactly is it perverse? To see a child engaged in violence? Or is it because it’s a female child engaging in violence that’s the problem?

I really suspect it’s the latter and not the former. After all, it’s not as if foul-mouthed, violent male characters are lacking in the market and yet there isn’t a huge brouhaha about that.

It gets funnier:

Frank Furedi, a professor of sociology weighs in with: “This promotes the idea that infantilising adulthood is ok and that we are no longer expected to draw lines between us and kids.”

Oh. Give me a break. Infantilising adulthood? So what do we call the current trend of putting prepubescent teens in stripper outfits and those high heels for babies?

On a related tangent, here’s a clip of 7 year old girls performing dance moves that look as if they’ve come straight out of Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” MV:

Or, if you don’t like videos, here’s some pictures:

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Granted, there’s somewhat of a firestorm going on because of these girls, but this isn’t the first or only instance of things like this happening.

Girls have been increasingly sexualized at younger and younger ages for years now and yet that sort of behaviour is alright and yet violence isn’t?

I love how there’s the comments that range from claiming that because it’s dance and therefore an art form, it’s not dirty or inappropriate to those who claim that sexualization is only in the eyes of the beholder and whoever sees this as being problematic should really get their mind out of the gutter.

Deanna:
I completely agree with you. These girls are talented little dancers and have skills! They are doing real choreography! There is a difference between getting dirty on the dance floor and body isolations! and do people not understand the difficult turn sequences in this piece.

Ken:
Unless you are one of these girls’ mothers, shouldn’t you keep your ridiculous ultra-conservative opinions to yourself? Anyone who sees sexuality in an outfit on a 7-yr old needs serious professional help. If your mind wasn’t thinking that way, you wouldn’t have this opinion. Period. Look yourself in the mirror and ask why you would see a costume on a 7-yr old as sexual.

Beammer:
The outfits look like swimsuits.

Peters (executive vp of The Hozman Group):
“It has been taken out of context.” and “There was NOTHING provocative about what they were doing.”

Presch (parent of one of the kids):
“The costumes are designed for movement, unrestricted movement and to show body lines.” Also, this is because “the judges need to be able to see the girl’s movement and technical skills.”

Um. Right. I see we’re going from justifying to rationalizing to flat out bullshit in very short order.  I wonder if Presch thinks the rest of us are all idiots who haven’t seen ballet performed before. I’m sure that leotards would show body lines and allow for full range of body movement.

I’m gratified that there’s still people who still think that this sort of dance routine and costuming choice is wildly inappropriate for 7 year old girls, but the fact that we have managed to let public morality slide to the point where this sort of performance is considered de rigeur in this sort of venue is frankly appalling. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that if a 17 year old I knew was doing this, I’d still be somewhat taken aback. You know it’s bad when Beyonce was wearing much less skin in a much less provocative manner in the original video.

Back to Hit-Girl. I appreciate how Chloe Moretz, the actress who plays Hit-Girl seems to be taking this way more in stride than some of the people blowing their tops off.

“Hit-Girl isn’t very adult at all. She may say this stuff, but she doesn’t know any better. That’s how she was born and raised. She watches John Woo movies — what do you get from John Woo movies? You get violence and cussing. And that’s all she knows. She doesn’t know how to speak kind words to people. Her Dad tried to raise her like that, she really doesn’t know any better.”

and

It’s a movie for a reason. It’s not meant to be taken as real life.

She also doesn’t suggest that kids watch it nor does she think that Hit-Girl should be a role model. She does see it as female empowerment insofar as it’s a female character who is kicking ass instead of being the damsel in distress.

What I really enjoy is the dichotomy. When it comes to violence, cursing, and such non-feminine pursuits, where are all the comments about it being art, about perversity only being in the eye of the beholder, about taking a chill pill because obviously to pull this off takes talent and that therefore excuses all?

Elisabeth Rappe puts it beautifully when she says that it’s because the violence isn’t sexual in nature.

Charlie’s Angels where they seduce men and then beat them? Perfectly alright.

Death via sex? That’s alright too.

But having a girl get all bloody and spill gore? Oh wait, that’s not ok at all, because a woman is supposed to either be the whore or the Madonna. The Madonna nurtures, teaches by loving pacifistic example, and “lends civilization to a brutal world”. Irony quotes. The whore kills with sex, poisons, and is essentially a back-stabbing bad girl who you do not want anywhere near your mother.

When it’s a girl doing all the bloodspilling, it’s no longer “just a movie” or “just entertainment”, it’s something infinitely more subversive, perverse, and problematic.

Hypocrisy, people. Hypocrisy. You’re so bad at this game.

06.02.09

Moar lulz

Posted in Feminism, Gender, Sexuality, culture tagged at 12:06 am by kyrias

So, my aunt and my mother and I had a little conversation the other day.

We came to the conclusion that it pretty much sucks to be a woman.

So, when a man has money, he has plenty of opportunity to cheat. Even if he doesn’t necessarily seek it out, there are plenty of women who will come sticking onto him like flies onto honey.

On the other hand, if a woman who has money wants to cheat — it’s comparatively harder. For one thing, men appear to be somewhat less enamored of being a kept man — at least I’ve never heard of men claiming that they wanted a sugar mommy whereas it’s pretty common to hear women talk about such things.

Further on that road, it seems that it’s more or less accepted if not lauded for a man to marry or date a much younger woman. However, if a woman tries the same, even if the man is a negligible five years younger to the twenty or so that is common amongst men who practice december-may matches — that’s somehow indecent.

In that vein — ugly and fat old rich men can find a nice, warm, willing cunt if he so wishes whereas a fat, old, wrinkled rich woman might find it comparatively harder.

Did you know that there’s actually entire detective agencies in Taiwan who center their entire business around finding the concubines of Taiwanese businessmen based in China?

Further more, did you know that supposedly there’s laws in China to protect the rights of said concubines? Purportedly there were so many women and children abandoned by their “husbands” that the government had to step in. Isn’t it telling that the Chinese government chose to semi-legalize adultery instead of telling the men and women that adultery is wrong wrong wrong?

And you know what takes the cake?

When there’s a dearth of men — we women have to work our asses off to get married. Consider the competitiveness women have towards each other. See the many ploys women employ.

Then see how when there’s a shortage of women — such as in inner China — men simply kidnap women from the coastal areas where they are more plentiful, because there’s more foreigners there, to sell to inner China to be wives to men who can’t otherwise find someone to bear their sons. Sometimes wives to multiple men who simply want sons. The concept of women getting more power because there’s less men as in “A brother’s price” ? Not really — not in China at least.

Fuck.

No wonder there’s some saying somewhere in Buddhism that states that you must’ve done something pretty bad in a past life to be born as a woman.

Fuck twice over.

05.25.09

and there was this one time in WoW…

Posted in Ethics and morality, Sexuality tagged at 12:17 am by kyrias

So. I think that little picture is rather self-explanatory, isn’t it?

My reaction?

If you know that it’s illegal for someone who is underage to engage with someone who is of age in that particular manner, than you should damn well stop because you are putting them in a position of potentially being sent to jail and being required to register as a sex offender whereever they live hereafter.

You have the right to fap, to wank, to participate in any exploratory sessions you may desire so long as you’re not adversely interfering with someone else’s life.

At a certain point it isn’t about draconian laws regarding who may fuck who or arbitrary laws and whatnot. It’s about you not having the right to put someone in jail because you wanted to get your rocks off.

This is based, of course, on the presumption that the other person doesn’t know. If s/he is a pedo, then things do get somewhat different.

I remember vaguely when I was guild master of a guild in World Of Warcraft. I distinctly remember that same “FUCK YOU” response when I learned that one of my guild officers was having ”pornographic interactions” with one of my underage members.

Of course, the way I learned was when the irate parent of said underage teen logged onto her account and started cross-examining me about whether I knew about this entire debacle. I was not amused.

I was pissed at the teen who I had previously knew to have no compunctions disregarding age limitations because of her unimaginable stupidity regarding said age limitations. I knew that she didn’t respect limitations because she filled out my survey on gaming behavior despite my having said that you must be 18 to participate. The thing is, those things are there for a reason, not just for LOLs and it irked me immeasurably that she would take things into her own hands without finding out the why and wherefores.

I was even more pissed at the guild officer because he essentially abused his postion, and he took advantage of a young girl whilst knowing that she was underage. I can’t decide if I’m happy that I didn’t know of this beforehand or if I felt betrayed that I wasn’t told what exactly was going on until I got slammed with threats of a police investigation into the “going ons of this guild”.

Just, not cool. Not cool at all. Play your games if you must, but leave me and my reputation out of it.